09 October 2025

Please Note:


 Due to a comment that appeared on the post for the Wednesday Hodgepodge that was not only rude, untrue, and judgemental, and was signed by "Anonymous" (so the person is also a coward besides being rude and judgemental!), I am now requiring that any one who wants to comment must have a google account or blogger account. 

This was a comment directed towards my youngest daughter who appeared in a photo.  

This person commenting clearly is either jealous of my daughter's ballerina physique or is a legalistic, insensitive person who judges based on clothing. 

I will not put up with rude  comments particularly if one refuses to sign their name or initials!! 

Thanks for your cooperation. 



08 October 2025

Autumn HodgePodge


Weston, Vermont

It's Wednesday and  the hodgepodge blog had some questions that I liked so I'm playing along. 


1. 'The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.' How does this saying ring true in your own family, either the one you grew up in or the one you made? 

Both girls have my body type and a lot of my traits like super organized, neat, musical, extroverted but needs alone time, avid readers and high functioning language and  verbal skills.  Both girls get their top grades in math and the sciences from Dave. One girl is more outdoorsy like me.  One girl loves science fiction like Dave. They have a good mix of both of us! We all love our coffee!!

Thanksgiving 2019 in MA
Courtney (age 25), me, Claire (20) 



2. Something you're nuts about these days? How about something that's driving you nuts? 

Something I'm nuts about:  I'm guessing this means something I'm kind of obsessed with?? The Hallmark series on Netflix titled The Way Home about time traveling.  SO good. 

Something that's driving me nuts:  the fact that it's embarrassing to be an American right now, especially with this ridiculous government shutdown and the fact that the politicians...no matter what side they are on....are like children. Little angry children that don't know anything about conflict  resolution. I'm staying away from the news due to our current "leadership". 

3. What does abundance mean to you? 


These qualities are the characteristics of someone living an abundant life in Jesus Christ. 

4. Caramel apple-caramel cake-caramel corn-caramel sundae-caramel macchiato...what's your caramel treat of choice? 

I don't eat caramel due to dental work but I do love an iced caramel macchiato in the summer months and a hot one in Sept-Nov.  I get the Starbucks one, grande, with almond milk but I don't get it as it comes.  I get the almond milk, light on the foam, only 1 pump of the vanilla syrup and only 1 shot of espresso.  I also ask for very light on the caramel drizzle. 

5. What's a childhood memory that always comes to mind as the leaves start to fall? 

From my childhood it would be helping my daddy rake the leaves in the backyard and jumping in them. It also includes the Homecoming parade and bonfire that my childhood high school always did and the smell of woodsmoke from up at camp.  

From my children's childhood:  the memories include apple picking, and having bonfires in our firepit and gathering in Plymouth County for Thanksgiving week with my husband's side of the family as he's a direct descendant from the Mayflower. When most of the leaves are off the trees here in eastern NY, we are in MA celebrating their important holiday. Here's a photo of my youngest daughter in 2017 when she was a freshman at UNH and discovered she is now allergic to raw apples. she discovered this after apple picking with Alpha Phi Omega!

Claire, age 18 in NH 2017 

My husband's parents (Warren and Betty) and all of their grandchildren in 2021. 

Thanksgiving 2021
Warren and Betty in front, seated
l-r:  Claire (our youngest), Adam (oldest nephew), Hanna, (niece)
Courtney (our oldest), Beth (oldest niece and sister to Adam)
behind Beth is Ronnie (youngest nephew) and then Debi (Ronnie's lil sis)




6. Insert. your own random thought here. 


Yesterday was the perfect morning 
for hanging out on the beach for some alone time
I was the only person on the beach and 1 person was walking their dog
Moreau Lake State Park 
Foothills of the ADK


HAPPY WEDNESDAY, EVERYONE!





06 October 2025

2025 Book Review #46: The Usual Rules

 

This is a book by an author I discovered about 20 years ago and yet have only read just a few of her novels. Both novels were ones I enjoyed. One of those books I read earlier this year.  How the Light Gets In was reviewed by me here. It was absolutely fantastic and I rated it a 10. I have also read Count the Ways, reviewed here.  That one was also a 10.  Then this one, Under the Influence, was an 8. After Her I read 11 years ago and I gave it a 7. It was just ok. I also read her book Labor Day although I don't think I did a blog review as it was a long time ago. 

If you're looking for a good read with some drama, history,  humor, and a feel-good message, this book is for you! I also highly recommend How the Light Gets In. 

STORY SUMMARY

Brooklyn, NY, on this particular September morning, is one of those perfect end of Summer days. Wendy, age 13, is in middle school and heading off to school which just started about 3 days ago. Her mother, Jan, is heading off to work in an office in the twin towers in Manhattan.  Her step-dad, Josh, has a gig later that evening.  He plays bass in a local band and is also a stay-at-home dad to Wendy's half brother, a preschooler, named Louie. He is named after Louis Armstrong because Josh and Jan love jazz music and the band Josh is a part of plays jazz. Wendy herself, although she didn't inherit her mother's gift of dance, did inherit her biological father's gift of art.  She loves to draw and play clarinet.  

As Wendy is getting ready for school, she and her mother have an arguement about the letter Wendy received from her biological father Garrett, who lives in California.  Garrett, although he has never paid child support nor has not visited Wendy much at all over the years since the divorce when she was preschool student, has invited Wendy to come out and visit him.  He seems to not even realize summer vacation is over and the children are all back in school!   Wendy's mother is adamant about not letting Wendy go.   Wendy leaves for school.

An hour later, the news comes that there's been an attack on the World Trade Center and the plane has crashed right into and through the tower that Jan works in. 

Life all of a sudden takes a horrible turn. 

They put up posters everywhere with Jan's face and info.  No phone calls come, no one has any information about where she could be. The truth is slow to sink in for Josh, Wendy and Louie. Kate, Jan's best friend, tries to help the family cope. 

A few weeks later, Garrett shows up in Brooklyn with no warning. He is there to take Wendy back to California with him. 
Wendy begins to re-invent herself out in Davis, CA. Her new life now includes a new friend named Violet who is an unwed teenage mother living on her own in a one bedroom apartment in Sacramento.   Wendy meets her because Wendy, unbeknownst to her dad, has been skipping the school where he enrolled her. 
Garrett has a girlfriend, Carolyn, who collects and sells cactus. She has recently reconnected with the son she gave up for adoption 20 years earlier. She becomes a good friend to Wendy and tells Wendy she can call on Carolyn at any time. 

Wendy also befriends the owner of a bookstore owner named Alan who has a son, aged 19 named Tim.  Tim lives in a home for teens on the autism spectrum. Alan's wife Linda has escaped to an ashram for awhile. It appears she doesn't plan on coming back. Alan introduces Wendy to some good books particularly The Diary of a Young Girl by Anne Frank. Wendy also has a new guy friend named Todd who is a  homeless skateboarder and aged 14. He is on a mission to find his long-lost brother. 

Over that winter and into spring, Wendy moves between the memories of her mother and the discoveries that come with living with her biological father  for the first time. Wendy is pulled between her old life in Brooklyn (and misses her best friend Amelia) and her new one in California where life is vastly different than living on the East Coast. She is faced with this new world where the usual rules no longer apply. 

She learns that she is a survivor. Will she decide to stay with her father or will she go home to the man she knows as dad and her little brother??  Which will she choose?  and why? 

MY THOUGHTS

This was deeply moving as it's told all in the voice of Wendy.  In fact, there's no quotation marks in this book.  That was rather different for me. It's literally a conversation that Wendy has in her head in a sense. 

The character development and the plot are so very well established. 

It is so moving to hear Wendy's thoughts, although a fictional character, about the tragedy of 9/11 and the aftermath in NYC. Because I live so close to the City, this was especially moving to me in a more personal way than I was expecting. 

The main themes in this story are: terrorist attacks; death of a parent; grief; blended families/family dynamics;   friendship; family; honesty; love; divorce; coming of age; hope and healing in personal and national tragedy; forgiveness. 

There were a few quotes that really jumped out at me:

"...that's about the best way you can honor a person you loved that died. To keep on with your life and do the best job you know of living it." (pg 280 The Usual Rules by Joyce Maynard c. 2003.)


"I'm not sure which is harder, he told her. When you feel like you can't go on any more, or when you start to realize you will." (pg 307)


"If you spend all your energy thinking about the past, what's left to put into the future....?" (pg 354) 

 

 At the back of the book is an afterward by the author explaining how and why she came to write this book. It was very moving .....just as much as the plot! 


In my opinion, this book is appropriate for ages 14 and older. 

On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the highest, I rate this a 10. 


 

03 October 2025

Autumn Peak Faves



I can't even believe it's October let alone Friday already! Someone in my extended family told me I would be bored in retirement. I am far from bored!  There's still chores, shopping, coffee dates with friends and daughters and date nights plus leading a small group, a hiking group, and taking a weekly class. I'm busy and it does make the days go by fast. 

But I also have chunks of time where I can sit in the sunshine on the deck or in the backyard swing and reflect on the blessings God brings and Fridays are perfect for that discipline.  Susanne hosts this group called the FAVE FIVES where we share five of the blessings that made us smile during the week. Head here to learn more.

first half mile up the mountain

This goes over a brook which was bone dry
due to most of NY being in a drought


me, Celine, Evelyn, Joan
on the summit of Mt VanHoevenberg

  • HIGH PEAKS HIKE: The group I lead, SoulSteps, had four of us signed up for the climb up Mt Van Hoevenberg in the Adirondack High Peaks region.  It involves a 2.5 hour drive from Albany and we got there around 9: 30 AM.  We were on the summit a few minutes before noon.  It was a glorious day but it started out cloudy and chilly up there.  Foliage  color was at peak last weekend up there.  The leaves here in my town are just starting to turn yellow/orange with a few reds as now this week the nights are getting below 50 degrees.  I'm thankful we had an awesome hike, were back down to the car by 1:30 leaving us time to explore two more areas in the high peaks.  And praise report:  I had NO cervicogenic headache all day nor did I have upper back pain when going down the mountain or for the rest of that day.  (Wish it would be that way every day!!). I'm thankful for pain free moments. 

Big Slide as seen from the opening
to an overlook on Mt VanH


looking up when paused on the trail
Mt VanHoevenberg in golden glory






  • A PEEK of a HIGH PEAK:  On the way down from  the summit of Mt Van Hoevenberg, I discovered an opening through some pines where there is an overlook.  We had a wonderful view of the High Peak known as Big Slide. Can you see the slide on the mountain? The elevation of that high peak is 4239' and I have hiked the first 2 miles of that trail as it goes to 3 peaks known as The Brothers.  Big Slide has a lot of rocky scrambles so I'm not likely to be able to hike that one due to my cervical spine issues.  But I know several people who have made it to the top. It was awesome to see the actual peak since earlier it had been in the clouds. 



Big Slide
a high peak in the Adirondacks



  • PHOTO PEEK:  Courtney and her best guy friend from college (Nathaniel) had their 10th year reunion at Gordon College's HomeComing (HoCo)
    on the north shore Boston area this past weekend. They left Friday and stayed at an inn Dave and I had recommended. Most of their activities were right on the college campus in this town of course but they also had Sunday to explore Gloucester and including one of the lighthouses.  I had a sneak peak of  some photos that she texted me. I'm so thankful they had safe  travels to and from Boston (they all took Monday off so it was a travel home day after exploring Plum Island). I'm also thankful she could see some college friends she hadn't seen since graduation 2015 and that her boyfriend Tyler really seemed to enjoy his time. 
    Tyler and Courtney at Eastern Point Lighthouse
    Atlantic Ocean 


Courtney and Tyler at the historic bell
in front of Gordon College Chapel 
photo used with permission

  • SNEAK PEEK:  After the SoulSteps mountain hike last Saturday, we had enough time to pop over to these waterfalls I had been to twice before. We had to "sneak" in (although there was only 1 other person there and he was leaving as we were arriving) past the fence....the fence is to keep people off the ledge but that doesn't seem to stop anyone as the fence is broken in 3 different areas!  In fact, we could basically walk around it at one spot. I wanted my hiking friends to see this glorious falls. The reason for the fence is because several people have died here or been seriously injured as they tried to get to the base of the falls. There are warning signs as well.   We of course stayed well away from the ledge. I knew where to bring my friends for a good shot of the falls. I'm thankful we had time to pop over to the falls. 


Split Rock Falls
town of New Russia
Adirondack high peaks region

  • PEEK at WHAT'S COMING: On Wednesday, I had two errands to run and in between both of them, I did my morning power walk and some running at the Erie Canal bike path on the western edge of town. The Erie Canal path goes all the way from Albany to Buffalo. I had a great peek at what's to come..... a few trees were totally bare along the path but the leaves were brown and very "crunchy".  On the news, I heard that this is because of the long drought we have had here in NYS since June.  We did have one day of rain in July and then 4 days of rain (3 just last week) in Sept but the water tables are very low. So in a drought with very warm weather like we've experienced this year, the leaves turn brown and fall quickly.  Here's a picture of me walking through the leaves and then the tree from where they fell. Of course the what's to come is more and more leaves will be falling off the trees in the next 2 months.  I'm thankful for the beauty of a bare tree and for walking places to exercise. 
power walking through fallen dried leaves




A bare tree along the Erie Canal path



I hope you have a wonderful weekend, whatever autumnal things you have planned.  I'm hiking in the Central region of the Adirondacks today with my friend Diane F.   We will be climbing a small mountain where the foliage is just at peak. I'm praying my cervical pain will be healed and if God chooses not to, I'm praying for the patience to deal with this. It's been a long 3 years. But thankfully, I can still hike!

Saturday is a trip to Vermont. 

Sunday is church and yet another hike at a local state park where 18 SoulStep members have signed up!  I'm thankful three of those members are my husband, my oldest daughter and her boyfriend. 


HAPPY FRIDAY!